In my earlier post, I expressed fear over the demise of a great guy, Thomas Kennedy. He went to Korea in October and I hadn’t heard from him since. I wrote a scathing email accusing him of being dead and it worked! My previous nice emails had not received responses.
Before I sent the aforesaid scathing email, I struggled with what seemed to be my ‘options.’ Tom is one of my good friends, I have known him since fifth grade and we have been close friends ever since we were seventeen. There have been long stretches of time where we have not communicated and that has been fine. We never seem to truly grow apart even after years of not communicating. I’ve been through a lot with Tom and he is the only friend I have who has actually met Grant, the supposed love of my life. (Married conductor.) He has met him on several occasions.
Before Tom left, we spent a great deal of time together and I felt really good about reconnecting with him before he embarked on this journey. He talked about me visiting and I had already laid the groundwork of that plan with Travelin’ Jilly.
But then I hadn’t heard from him. At all. And after I sent a few fun “how is Korea” emails, I felt that I basically had two choices:
a) give up
b) write an email where I express my frustration about the lack of communication.
Well, we all know which one I took. (PS-to new readers…I never give up.)
And the response was immediate and very positive. Not only did he write back but he felt bad for not writing earlier and told me all about his experience in Korea!
In this case, the response was positive. What do you think? Is this always the right choice?